O.K. this is my first blog, I am not so sure as to what the blog world is all about or what exactly I should be doing. However I do believe we all have something important to say, something important to share and it would be a shame if we didn't say it or share it.
Now in light of recent situations I have been thinking and questioning, what really goes on in the mind of men. As a woman it seems we have always had this question rattling around in our brains. The latest movie "Think Like a Man" which is hilarious by the way, gave us some insight, but by God I think some of the men I know are exceptions to these rules. So a lot of us ladies are still left holding a torch that is slowly going out on relationships and pretty soon we will be left in the dark or simply just left...or we may have to leave which ever comes first. It was funny how the men in the movie made such a fuss about women finding out the "game" and tried to change the rules so that we don't catch up. Why is it like this men? Why is it about playing a game? Is it that you must always be the victor so even though a battle or competition is not necessary you have to create one? Chances are the woman would sleep with you if were honest in the first place, but we know that you are trying to play us, some of us just choose to play the fool.
I wish I knew what to tell us women to do, some of us think we should run our own form of game so the the player will get played, which makes sense if you can handle it. Most of us aren't equipped to handle any type of game because we weren't built that way and why stoop to playing games? Then there are those of us who just go with the flow till something better comes along but that to me seems counter-productive because there will always be someone who is better than the person you are with in some way. And there are those of us who opt out of the relationship arena all together because we just can't be bothered (I may joint those few in a bit) but again it makes no sense, you won't know if you don't try right? So either way we are backed into a corner where men feel they have the upper hand because we let them know how much we need them, want them, crave them but we never hear this from them (though they feel the same way). I feel we allow them to get away with too much and if nothing else from that movie stuck with me, this did..."we do not require them to do anything". This is true even for me. I give and give and give and I never require him to give me anything while he get everything he asks of me. Ladies as hard as it may be we need to start requiring these men to care, to do things for our benefits. Now I am not saying demand from them the things they don't have like money to pay your bills or the car etc. But require them to care, require them to make you their lady before they get "some" and if he doesn't want to do simple things like that for you then move the heck on, its not worth it. We are the ones who sit up unhappy after he has gone to sleep satisfied and happy.
Men you should know that not all women are trying to trap you into marriage, house, children and the works. Some of us are fine without all that for now and chances are when you think you are ready, that's the time she will be ready also. In the mean time we just want someone to show up every now and then, whether it be for sex, companionship or just to hang out. Its not a death sentence to be with someone that you obviously enjoy being with, but some men (and women) avoid relationships like the plague. "Oh me? No I'm not anybody's boyfriend, I just see this girl everyday, think about her all the time, want to be around her every min. and would do anything for her, as a matter of fact I can see myself marrying and having children with her but nope I can't call her my girlfriend." That just seems totally absurd to me. Or maybe they say these things to keep us hopeful while they continue to get what they want. And men will argue that there are women who fit so seamlessly into this mold too and I agree. Both sexes have this issue of commitment and relationship phobias but you have to admit that it is professed by men more than women. Ladies and Gents, you know what works for you, and if it is not working despite how you feel about that person, make the effort to continue the journey, only one of two things can happen, the person you are sacrificing for will see what they are loosing and rise to the challenge or let you go, which is where you want to be if that is how they truly feel about you. Well that's way more than I thought I had to say, till next time...live the life you love, love the life you live...